Slightly nonbinary

In the past few years, my sister Liz has been asking my questions about my gender identity, and through this I began to understand my gender identity as being non-binary. I grew up in a household with a mother and a father, and I realize I am very lucky. I also was raised with two sisters, who both are cisgendered.

Now, I am 27. I told my “boyfriend” of almost 3 months that I identified as non-binary. He didn’t say anything and he held his head in his hands for a long time.

Later, we were laying in bed.

I said, “Would you rather I were a woman?”

“Yes,” was his immediate response.

“Okay, I can be a woman for you,” I said.

I didn’t start crying until after he had left for work the next day.

I have off this week but there was a problem at his Josef’s work and he was called in to help fix it. This makes me like him more.

Unfortunately, I don’t think I can be in relationship with someone who does not accept my gender identity.

My willingness to change for him is concerning.

Maybe it will just take time.

(Words do ruin everything.)

Days pass, and we talked more. When he held his head in his hands, I think he was imagining me conforming to the nonbinary stereotype. I informed him this was not the case.